In-tuh-muh-see
July 29, 2008 at 3:25 p.m.
At which point in a relationship does one feel close enough to the one that they are with to really cross the line into intimate territory? I'm not talking about sexual intimacy; I'm talking about the kind of intimacy where you feel that you can talk with this person about anything in the world, and have no fear of being judged after you spill your heart out.
Sergio isn't one for intimacy; sexual or otherwise. In the quest to build the perfect boyfriend online, one must constantly teach him the meanings behind every word that is thrown at him. I don't know about you, but I'm not one for patience. There are certain times when girls should be willing to teach their man a thing or two; Teaching intimacy is not one of those times.
Intimacy is something that I have struggled with in many of my relationships. There are many things in my past that I hold back from someone that I am seeing for the mere fact that I don't want to know how they would react. Every girl has a few skeletons in her closet; I choose to keep most of mine hidden. I must admit, there are times that I am envious of my friends that can open themselves up so willingly to guys that they care about. I can see the closeness that comes along with divulging secret things to one another; I just can't find it in myself to do it. And, sadly, there have not been many men in my life that I feel are privileged enough to know everything about me.
Thankfully, when it comes to Sergio, he can keep a secret. If I get suspicious, I can always just close my computer up for the night and ignore the situation. That's healthy, right?
Healthy or not, intimacy isn't something to take lightly. Once you cross Intimacy Road in your relationship, there's no going back. You open yourself up to a multitude of greater things, as well as even greater heartbreak. That can be a scary thing to realize, and may be one of the reasons that many people keep some feelings hidden initially in relationships.
*raises hand*
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